There are many ways for men to cheat on wives or partners. In addition to traditional cheating behaviors, computer technology has made it easier than ever for a cheating husband to be unfaithful. The cheating husband is becoming more and more common. Why?
The ways in which a man cheats are preceded by the reasons why a man cheats. Cheating doesn’t happen in a vacuum; the reasons for a cheating husband to risk his marriage occur over a period of time. Cheating tends not to be impulsive; usually, it is considered and reconsidered before it actually happens. Here are some reasons why men cheat.
Taking Men For Granted
When two people enter into a marriage or a committed relationship, they can relax. Searching for a mate is over, the courtship has been a success, and the couple is optimistic about being in a long-term partnership. As time passes, many couples begin to take the relationship, and their spouse, for granted. They assume that their partner will stay in the relationship regardless of how they are treated or what is said to them. This is a very inaccurate and very destructive assumption because it could result in a cheating husband or wife.
Men, like women, want to know that they are valued. If they begin to be ignored, or if their efforts are taken for granted, they will start to question their purpose in the relationship. They will wonder why their spouse is treating them badly before they begin thinking of becoming a cheating husband. Over time, they will tire of feeling like a non-entity in the relationship, and their spouse’s behavior will lead them to seek value and respect elsewhere, leading to infidelity and a crisis in the marriage.
Terms such as “macho,” “Neanderthal,” and “testosterone” are used as stereotypes and hyper-masculine imagery to refer to men. These terms inaccurately define men as violence-prone cavemen; they are also used to degrade men. A Neanderthal was a caveman who survived using violence, and a macho man is commonly assumed to think of himself as superior to other men and all women. When a man is seen as a stereotype, his individuality is lost, and his behavior is categorized according to preconceived assumptions.
A macho man is always looking for a fight, a Neanderthal has little brain capacity and is only interested in survival, and a man filled with testosterone is pre-occupied with sex. All of these beliefs are based on the limited view provided by stereotypes, and most men resent not being seen as an individual. This resentment is also seen in men of color, disabled men, and men who were raised in cultures that highly value traditional male-female roles. Use of such stereotypes encourage and support men to act in ways that are detrimental to relationships, including as cheating husbands.
When couples argue, emasculating language may be used, and it can be extremely detrimental to the relationship. Emasculating language is used to attack; terms such as “wimp,” “sissy,” or “wus” can make a man feel impotent, ineffective, and powerless. Men react strongly to these words because they assail his core being. Regardless of how society has progressed, men still see themselves as providers and protectors. Emasculating language damages a man’s self image. When a man hears words that have an emasculating effect, he may start thinking of finding someone who respects his masculinity. This could result in a cheating husband.
Cheating cuts across all cultures, income levels, and educational backgrounds. No relationship is immune to infidelity. High-profile, cheating spouses are popularized on television and in movies; however, millions of couples may be experiencing infidelity at any given time. While the methods of cheating are well known, the actual reasons why people cheat are just as important to note. Knowing why people cheat may prevent a potential cheating husband from risking his marriage.